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There’s a question I keep close at hand—a kind of litmus test for my next right step:
“What would I do if I were fearless?”
It’s more than a mental exercise. It’s a core pillar of my life philosophy. You see, I believe that fear is the great saboteur of destiny. If I look back over the most painful decisions, missed opportunities, or delayed dreams, there’s a common culprit hiding in the background: fear. That’s why years ago, I made a quiet but unshakable commitment:
I refuse to make decisions based on fear.
Not when choosing a career path. Not when facing a financial risk. Not when wrestling with what people might think. Not even when fear feels justified.
And it’s not a principle I kept to myself. This is something I intentionally taught—and tried to model in front of—my now-adult children. I wanted them to grow up knowing that while fear is real, it’s not the compass you follow. It’s the alarm bell you notice… and keep moving anyway.
The Silent Assassin of Dreams
Fear doesn’t always show up looking like terror. Sometimes it looks like endless planning. Sometimes it sounds like “maybe later.” Sometimes it masquerades as wisdom, caution, or humility. But make no mistake: if fear is making the decision, it’s steering you off-course.
Over the years, I’ve seen fear steal too many good things from good people. The business they never started. The relationship they never fought for. The book they never wrote. The move they never made.
Maybe you’ve felt it too—the heavy, persuasive whisper: “It’s too risky. You’re not ready. You’ll probably fail. It’s not worth it.”
That voice is not your friend. It’s not your protector. It’s the saboteur at the gate of your calling.
What Would Change if You Were Fearless?
Lately, I’ve been revisiting this question in my own life—especially in business building and outreach. If I were fearless, I would pick up the phone and call potential clients without second-guessing. I would offer my highest-value services without flinching over price. I would launch ideas without waiting for perfect conditions. I would trust God’s leading more than my own insecurities. I would risk visibility, vulnerability, and boldness for the sake of the mission.
Some of that, honestly, I’m already doing. Some of it, I’m still stepping into.
Courage is a journey, not a trophy you win once and for all.
Fearless Doesn’t Mean Reckless
Choosing not to be fear-driven doesn’t mean ignoring wisdom, strategy, or discernment. It means refusing to let fear be the deciding factor.
It means when you feel fear (and you will feel it), you investigate, listen, and lead yourself forward with clarity and purpose.
Courage, after all, isn’t the absence of fear—it’s the decision that fear won’t be your king.
A Question for You
Today, you’re standing at some threshold in your own life. It might be a decision about work, relationships, health, finances, faith. And I’m guessing there’s a little voice of fear somewhere in the room. Before you make your next move, pause and ask:
What would I do if I were fearless?
Then listen carefully. Your answer might just be the first whisper of your destiny calling you forward. The life you long for isn’t waiting behind comfort, safety, or certainty.
It’s waiting behind courage.
And the good news? You already have it in you.
If you’re ready to stop letting fear call the shots and build a life or business with boldness, let’s talk. I’m helping leaders and business owners step into their fearless future—one courageous move at a time.
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